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If Ben Schmitt will ask his parents one day, as they have come to know him, he will get to hear a classic love story. His mother Yvi will tell how she noticed in 1995 in a Berlin club this wiry, dark-haired little woman who seemed to have so much energy. Ben will hear Yvi has made this lively Catrin months on the farm, with Catrin hesitated at first because they really did was not ready for the compromises and the resistance that requires a relationship and how it then but at some point - or more precisely in celebrated by an autumn night at Rosenthaler Platz - did conquer. nike dunks sb Yvi Potucek, a hairdresser from East Berlin, and Catrin Schmitt, communication designer from Mainz were a couple whose life revolved around for years, especially music, parties and clubs until they moved in together and got married at thirty. From Yvi Potucek, Ms. Schmitt. Ad If know Ben will then, as he and his little sister Annie have emerged from a conversation at the kitchen table will be discussed in the Yvi to Catrin says, "I can not imagine sitting at some time with you alone under a Christmas tree.Buy Nike Air Max sale When I am old, I want to be grandma. . I think we should take the issue of children now in attack, "About a year later, in November 2006, he was born: Ben Bela Schmitt. An estimated 19 000 children in Germany are currently growing up in same-sex relationships. Nor is the majority of these children from heterosexual marriages that broke up, but the number of children who are raised from birth by homosexual parents is growing steadily. Long rants you are in big-city lesbian cafes not about discrimination or the patriarchy, but discussion about breastfeeding and male role models for young boys. Nike Air Max saleWhen lesbians are celebrating festivals, they make her extra room for the many children of their friends. And in Berlin lesbian cafe silk thread are on some afternoons, the pram so dense that no passage is more. "Rainbow family" is this way of life since 2009 is the word in the dictionary noted. The model is now so established that it is good even as material for Hollywood productions. Nominated for an Oscar film The Kids Are All Right tells how the life of a rainbow family gets messy as the children trace their biological father. discount vibram five fingersIn Germany over 156,000 viewers have now seen the comedy. From a taboo topic within twenty years become an entertainment material. But how this life really is? When Ben Bela Schmitt in November 2006 was born proclaiming that his mother, now both in their forties, the birth of "great joy" in ornate script and had as if there was not the decades-long debate on gender-neutral education, on pale blue paper.vibram five fingers sale The birth of Annie later, three years - named after her great-grandmother Anny and the lesbian photographer Annie Leibovitz, who won with 51, a daughter - was advertised in June 2009 following the same pattern on pink paper. Look here seem to say the ads, it just goes with us to normal as in other families. With one year Ben was baptized in Mainz - by a Protestant priest in a chapel that had Catrin's father, an architect who once designed. A photo shows Ben in soil long christening gown and white sneakers with uncertain steps to Yvis hand run to the church. Another shows him flanked by two happy-looking mothers.Vibram Five Fingers Classic Womens Both do not believe the way: Yvi was brought up atheist in the GDR, the former Protestant Catrin announced late twenties with a protest against the sexual morality of the church membership - but their children's sake leave the women are now back on the church. "The Baptism strengthens Ben by giving him something else that other children have," says Catrin, sounds a bit like it when they think he out there in the hostile world, could well use protection. Now is not that the smell everywhere Schmitt hostility. The family lives in B?tzowviertel, one of those neobürgerlichen quarters in the renovated East Berlin, where a lot of children live in all possible situations: in core or reconstituted families, group homes, bringing them up alone, a stranger cared for or protected. Anything is possible, and rainbow families fall to less here than elsewhere. "We feel" secure, says Yvi Schmitt. Above, below and in front of them families live where they can keep the children sometimes give short, and the baker's wife greets the neighborhood in Schmitt's as nice as all other families. Nevertheless, Ben and Annie are confronted early on with something that people such difficulty in principle - the fact of being different. Sybille Gypkens, Physician for Child and Adolescent Psychiatry in Berlin know from many conversations that children suffer when their family from the popular majority model is different. Gypkens says, "Gay parents are socially still far from being self-evident. The children charged from same-sex relationships. In a functioning homosexual partnership a child can cope with the special situation well - but in principle it is more necessary than children in traditional family models, "In other words, more inconspicuous, the family, the easier it is to have children.. It is a paradox: In order to find himself, had to say goodbye to Yvi and Catrin bourgeois ideals, as mothers they have to copy them exactly. Conformity is for the two women have become a leitmotif. Recently, a neighbor's child Yvi and Catrin has painted something for mothers day. Each mother had her own image. "It was like a confirmation that we are in the eyes" of others, a family, "says Catrin. Noon on an ordinary Monday: Catrin cooks, works in the salon Yvi, Ben is in kindergarten, Annie is sleeping. On the kitchen table is a dictionary, the page with the heading "hollandaise" is opened, because Ben has asked how the sauce got its name. On the walls hang photos: Catrin and Yvi beach, arm in arm with Nina Hagen and dressed to kill on the Christopher Street Day. The photos look like relics from another life. "Before, I was always afraid of missing something. It was very important to be on guest lists and stuff. This has stopped with the children, "says Catrin. No sooner is Annie woke up and dressed, she stuck to a camping grill under his arm, grabs a child and a salad bowl, climbs down the stairs, tucked Annie, grill and salad in a bike trailer and ride down the road to the barbecue at the daycare center. Catrin and Yvi are both grown up in households where the mothers predominated. Both are children of divorce. "My mother always gave us children to understand that we are the most important thing. If we are faring well, she felt good. The same goes for me, "says Catrin. They belong to the variety and Yvi parents who lie at night to sleep with the children's bed and tell patient stories - even if they are dead tired and would prefer to watch the game on TV. The Holiday Usedom Schmitt's doing now instead of earlier in southern France, and at night they still barely walk. Catrin, Ben and Annie has brought to the world, the children breastfed for almost six months and do not care for strangers in the first year of life can be. Everyday life, they made much the same way as we know him from his own childhood: it is with the children much in the fresh air, handicrafts and cooking. The Schmitt's wish that their children go to high school later. That they are set by social and boxes without regard for the loss that they did one day maybe even a family.